I see it all the time on social media, the so called “Momfluiencer”. Now, let me be clear in that I don’t shame mothers that are trying to influence others in a real and positive way. Let me repeat that, a Real and Positive way. Those mothers that give real advice and are willing to show the world the good sides and down sides of parenting.
Don’t think that it’s just mothers, there are fathers out there too that only show a facade of what it’s really like being a parent. Fathers that only want to be funny and not contribute anything else to help those lost in the pains of parenting.
The reason I am calling out the “Momfluencer” is because they cause so much pain for other parents, mothers in particular. Fathers don’t pretend that they have it all together in a shallow way, a way in which the are only tearing each other down. Fathers, we admit almost happy that we are idiots.
The only thing real parents are seeing is this fake life those “Momflu’s” pretend to have. All the while real parents are struggling with being able to provide for their family, support them in all they do, care for everyone else’s wellbeing usually while shelving their own needs & health. Just trying to keep an orderly home, get everything done each day, find a few minutes to themselves. Which usually doesn’t happen without costing sleep. They try so hard to made it to every event in then children’s lives. Trying all the while to find time for their spouse, and the list goes on.
So to all those “Momfluencers” that are only showing how perfect you are. Your not an influencer. Who are you influencing? No one! How are you helping anyone?
Some of you yes are a great influence to other parents out there and I applaud you for putting it all out there.
Others though are just trying to show everyone they can just how great of a mommy you really are. Why? Probably because they’d rather get likes on social media then contribute anything remotely meaningful to society. Or worse yet get likes over being there in your kids lives.
What is worse is there are those mothers out their that talk about all the things they accomplished that particular day “Oh, well after work today I cleaned my kitchen, Did the dishes, washed and folded the laundry. I cooked ever meal with love and all with a smile.. #AwesomeMom.”
#BS! First of all no one folds laundry after washing it, at least not until a few days later. That’s if they even make it through the week without everyone picking through it and then your washing the same clothes the following weekend.
You’re telling me that you didn’t drop one single F-Bomb when you realized you just cleaned that exact spot yesterday, and the day before that, and the day before that like it was groundhogs day and your Bill fucking Murray? I have. Usually after I’ve spent an hour cleaning and just a few hours later my living room looks like a bomb went off.
Not once have you been in the bathroom just ugly crying as you are taking a paint scrapper to your sons shit crusted underwear looking like he was smuggling Hershey Kisses in his drawers? The underwear you found he threw in the laundry earlier in the week like it was just the typical dirty underwear? I was there just this last weekend actually, minus the crying and paint scrapper part… I use Oxiclean.
Oh look a REAL parenting tip moment.
Oxiclean is the do it all brand for baby and toddler clothes messes. The spray takes care of blowouts and potty training accidents. The powder is a must to get the smell and stains out of the rest especially on the night time bed wetting accidents.
Even if you’re a stay at home parent, how do you expect me to believe you have it all figured out. You expect me to believe you get it all done, the cleaning, playing with the kids, help your kids with homework, cook the meals, and meet your SO at the door with a smile? Oh and all while posting as much as you do online. You don’t… and that is ok…
What I’m saying is it’s ok not to have it all together. Just Be Real!
I’m speaking of honesty so here is some for you. I said F*CK about as loud as I could this last weekend. Why? Well, after a hellish two weeks at work and being stressed about money around the holiday I decided to make something I’ve never made, buttermilk pancakes and my daughter didn’t want them they way I was making them.
I apologized since for my breakdown. But that is what being a parent is. You f*ck up all the time and hope none of the mistakes mess them up.
Please, If you want to be a real “Momfluencer” drop the Mom part and just be a real genuine parent and influence other parents by giving them actual real advice. Even if it feels like common sense to you it could be an eye opener to a new mom or dad.
Give tips on how you potty trained a boy and got him to stop wizzing all over the toilet seat.
I’m a guy and I still can’t figure out how he covers everything. How to get it through his head that he must clean up his pee but without using a half a roll of TP in the process.
Tell us what products were game changers for you and why. Did you have products you used in other unexpected ways? What was the set up you had for your changing table and why did you set it up that way?
Did your relationship with your spouse go through the ringer after the baby but came through the fire stronger? Tell us how you managed to do that.
Lastly stop pretending you are perfect give us the real and raw truth of parenting. Show us, at least once in a while, what it really looks like in your world. Not the perfect life so many are pretending they have.
Now, I speak to the other parents who are trying their hardest to just make it through another day. The parents who are both mother and father. Those that are married but struggling to hold onto that relationship because you haven’t had but 10 minutes alone together in 2 weeks. To those parents who struggle everyday to get just half of the things on your to do list done. You got this.
Parenting is hard and it will always throw you curves. Usually when you need it the least. Just do your best and if you fail, try a little harder tomorrow.
Let us start building each other up. Remember our children are our future. Think about that. That mother or father you help, their child could be your kids future boss, spouse, best friend, roommate, or a stranger they meet. Don’t you want their kid to have a positive influence on you baby? Well, now is the time to help build parents up so they can pass that on to their babies.
