Yup, here’s we go again!!! We have been keeping the news hush for quite some time, about 11 weeks. With it being unexpected and with the past miscarriages we didn’t want to say anything too soon. Plus we were trying to wait for her parents to come out from Maine to announce to them in person, but they have to stay a while longer in Maine.
So, here we are just over 20 weeks in to the pregnancy. We’ve just announced to our family yesterday that we are bringing another, what I’m sure will be a beautiful, little girl into this world. I couldn’t be happier.
How We Announced
How we announced was with the photos below. I think only 1 of my sister got it right off the bat.
My mother was the funniest. I had to walk her through the photos. She just kept telling me how cute they are and they’re such beautiful grandchildren.
I said,” Ya the first photo gets me.”
My mom was like “Yes, it’s a spitting image of you.”
I was dying of laughter. Finally, I just said to her “Go look at the first photo again.”
That’s when she called me then and was all “ OH my GOD!!!” and if you could hear my mother say GOD it sounds more like GAWD. Which cracks me up every time.
SO I told her the 2nd photo is the gender so she hangs up and calls back a few minutes later, after telling my sister I’m having twins via text and says to me, your having twins!!!!!
What the??? Hell no!!!! Mom, there are 3 balloons and I have 2 kids.
Meanwhile, my sister is BLOWING UP my phone. I finally got my mother to calm down told her it’s a girl, look at the balloons ma, and she was just ecstatic. My mother never disappoints me when it comes to excitement and humor.
Her parents were the wild card for me. I was worried about how they would react. Probably because I’ve known them since I was still a high school punk when I started dating Theresa. So there is that small part of me that I think still wants their approval. They too were extremely happy for us and that’s all I wanted
How we found out.
We found out right after a trip to San Francisco that we took to visit family. She had been tired and feeling sick for a few weeks and figured it was just nerves from work and planning the trip. Guess again. She took like 4 tests and I was like “Well, that lines not that red???”
Her response was “ That’s the test line the other line is the positive”
And I, slightly faint, responded with “ Oh DAMN that a SOLID, deep red, line Like a FAT sharpie red” There was no disputing that.
How my kids reacted
So my daughter has been really funny about the whole thing. She’s been wanting a sister so her sister can be Anna so she can be Elsa. When we told her she was super happy. She has been telling everyone she can teachers, all the kids in the school, just about anyone she knows “There is a baby in mommy’s tummy!” To add to the comedy she talks to the baby. My son you ask? well I believe this smile tells the story better then I could.
How wifey feels
She’s having good days and bad days. It’s taking a lot out of her. Partly because she is running an office for her work, and in part because she is driving both kids an hour each way to daycare everyday of the week. And well, she’s pregnant! So understandably, she’s more tired then she was during the previous 2. Heart burn is hell, the first trimester was full of nausea, and her sense of smell is that of a bloodhound. So smells around her don’t go unnoticed.
Fathers Worries
I worry… I worry about the cost of another child. Which is another daycare cost and out here it isn’t cheap. Looking at probably $3,000/month for all 3 (and that’s cheap). The other expenses that come with babies seems to work itself out like the diapers and wipes. She’s breastfeeding so no worries about formula unless it’s really needed. Clothes we are set on because we still have most of our daughters.
My other huge worry is space. we live in a 1 bedroom apartment and are locked in a lease until September 2020. So, I’m going to have to figure out a way to make it work until then. I’m looking into all options like building a loft bed for my oldest daughter, my son than graduates to my daughters current bed and the baby gets the crib once she goes to her own bed. But like always we’ll figure it out.
It is unexpected but it’s also a blessing and everything will work out for the best as life does. It’s already motivating me to add to what is already there. It’s going to push me to new heights knowing I HAVE TO provide, love, and sacrifice for my family all of which I’m willing to do. In the coming months, as well as continuing Daddy-to-bee, my wife and I will be starting another site that’ll be focusing on design and the creative fields. I’ll be sure to update this post with the site as we get it off the ground for any of you designer parents, or the inspiring creative that would like to follow us on there as well. Thank you for reading. Be sure to post in the comments any of your exciting, expecting, or unexpecting little ones on the way. I would love to hear about it!!!
